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Selena Gomez Opens Up About Emotional Turmoil After Wedding to Benny Blanco
10/17/2025, 1:50:31 PM
Emotional Reflections on Joy and Anxiety
Selena Gomez recently shared her emotional experience following her wedding to music producer Benny Blanco on September 27, 2025. Speaking at the Fortune’s Most Powerful Women conference in Washington, D.C., on October 15, Gomez revealed that she often struggles to fully embrace moments of happiness due to a pervasive fear of impending loss. “This is how I work personally, but when something great happens in my life, I expect something bad to happen,” she explained. This mindset led her to sob after her wedding, as she found herself consumed by thoughts of mortality, stating, “I got married and then I was sobbing because I was like, ‘I’m gonna die the next day.’”
Background on the Wedding
Gomez and Blanco's wedding was a private affair held in Santa Barbara, California, attended by close friends and family, including celebrities like Taylor Swift and Paul Rudd. The ceremony was described as simple yet filled with love, with Gomez wearing three custom Ralph Lauren gowns. Despite the joy of the occasion, Gomez's emotional response highlighted her ongoing battle with anxiety and self-doubt.
Insights into Mental Health
Gomez has been open about her mental health struggles, including her experiences with bipolar disorder and anxiety. Her candid remarks at the conference reflect a broader theme in her life, where moments of joy are often overshadowed by fears of loss. She noted, “Instead of being present and saying, ‘Okay, wow, we’ve done a great thing,’ I’m always thinking, ‘Okay, but this could all go away tomorrow, so how can I make sure that doesn’t happen?’” This perspective has been a recurring challenge for her, particularly during significant life events.
Criticism & Opposition
While Gomez's openness about her mental health has been praised, some critics argue that her focus on negative outcomes may inadvertently reinforce anxiety rather than promote healing. Mental health advocates emphasize the importance of mindfulness and living in the moment, which Gomez acknowledges as her “biggest conflict.”
Verbatim Quotes
- “I would say that’s my biggest conflict sometimes when wonderful things happen.” — Selena Gomez
- “I got married and then I was sobbing because I was like, ‘I’m gonna die the next day.’ I just think that’s a little life thing.” — Selena Gomez
- “This is how I work personally, but something great happens in my life, I expect something bad to happen.” — Selena Gomez
What's Next for Gomez
Following her wedding, Gomez expressed a desire to continue her work with her beauty brand, Rare Beauty, which focuses on inclusivity and mental health awareness. She aims to leverage her platform to help others navigate their emotional challenges, particularly in schools, where such resources are often lacking.
Gomez's journey reflects a complex interplay between joy and anxiety, illustrating the challenges many face in fully embracing happiness while grappling with the fear of loss.
