Exploring Ethical Non-Monogamy: A Journey of Transformation

After three decades of monogamy, Eric and Bea began exploring ethical non-monogamy as a means to rejuvenate their relationship. This shift was prompted by Bea's renewed libido during perimenopause, leading them to discuss their fantasies, particularly the idea of a threesome with another man. Their initial foray into this world began with a visit to an adult social club, although they ultimately did not engage with anyone. However, this experience opened a dialogue that significantly enhanced their sexual relationship.

This is how we do it: ‘Having threesomes has totally transformed us – in and out of bed’

The couple's journey took a decisive turn when they downloaded Feeld, a dating app for open-minded individuals. After several encounters, they arranged a threesome with a man named Drake, who had prior experience in similar arrangements. The experience was described as empowering for Bea, who felt a surge of confidence. However, it also introduced complexities, particularly for Eric, who grappled with feelings of jealousy and insecurity. Despite these challenges, the couple has continued to see Drake, engaging in multiple threesomes and even allowing Bea to meet Drake alone, which has further complicated Eric's emotions.

This is how we do it: ‘Having threesomes has totally transformed us – in and out of bed’

Both Eric and Bea have emphasized the importance of communication in navigating their new relationship dynamics. They sought guidance from a couple's therapist specializing in open relationships to help manage the emotional complexities that arose. Eric expressed that while he has moments of insecurity, he ultimately prioritizes Bea's pleasure and happiness. He noted, “If I can make the person I love most in the world feel good, and experience pleasure vicariously in the process, why would I stand in the way of that?”

This is how we do it: ‘Having threesomes has totally transformed us – in and out of bed’

The couple's exploration of non-monogamy has transformed their relationship, fostering deeper conversations about sex and intimacy. They report feeling more connected than ever, with their experiences leading to a more profound understanding of each other’s desires and boundaries. Despite the challenges, both Eric and Bea view their journey as a positive evolution of their relationship, allowing them to explore new dimensions of their sexual lives together.

This is how we do it: ‘Having threesomes has totally transformed us – in and out of bed’

While Eric and Bea have found success in their non-monogamous arrangement, critics of ethical non-monogamy often highlight potential emotional pitfalls, such as jealousy and insecurity. Some argue that introducing a third party can complicate existing relationships, leading to feelings of inadequacy or competition. Eric himself acknowledged these feelings, stating that he sometimes struggles with self-esteem, particularly when comparing himself to Drake.

This is how we do it: ‘Having threesomes has totally transformed us – in and out of bed’

• “If I can make the person I love most in the world feel good, and experience pleasure vicariously in the process, why would I stand in the way of that?” — Eric, Partner

This is how we do it: ‘Having threesomes has totally transformed us – in and out of bed’

• “The experience has been transformative for me; I’ve never felt this confident, in bed or out.” — Bea, Partner

This is how we do it: ‘Having threesomes has totally transformed us – in and out of bed’

Through their journey into ethical non-monogamy, Eric and Bea illustrate the complexities and rewards of exploring new relationship dynamics, emphasizing the importance of communication and mutual respect in navigating this evolving landscape.

This is how we do it: ‘Having threesomes has totally transformed us – in and out of bed’