Reintegrating Fathers: The "Time with Dad" Program in Israel

The "Time with Dad" program, initiated by Early Starters, aims to assist fathers returning from extended reserve duty in the Israel Defense Forces (IDF) in reintegrating into family life. This initiative has emerged in response to the unique challenges faced by these fathers, particularly those who have experienced loss and trauma during their service. Currently, around 20 groups across Israel provide structured support to families, emphasizing the importance of reconnecting through everyday interactions.

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Yoel Goldberg, a father of four from Moshav Ganei Tal, exemplifies the struggles many fathers face after prolonged periods away from home. Having served over 400 days in reserve duty, including a harrowing experience where 21 reservists from his unit were killed in a building collapse in Gaza, Goldberg reflects on the profound changes that occur during such service. "After the service, I forgot what it means to make a sandwich and play with my child," he shared, highlighting the emotional toll and disconnection that can arise from extended military duty.

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The program recognizes that the skills learned in the field do not easily translate to home life. Goldberg noted, "In the field, you learn to function and to be strong. But at home, there's a gap." This sentiment is echoed by other participants who have similarly struggled to reestablish their roles as fathers after long absences.

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The "Time with Dad" program, supported by the Schusterman Family Philanthropies-Israel and the Glazer Foundation, offers structured group sessions designed to foster interaction between fathers and their young children. These sessions create a safe and nonjudgmental environment where families can engage in play and shared activities. Helli Naftalovich, Director of Israel Operations at Early Starters International, emphasized the program's focus: "Many fathers return home deeply committed to their families but carrying emotional weight from their service." The initiative aims to rebuild routine, presence, and trust, rather than serving as a therapeutic intervention.

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Currently operating in approximately 20 locations across Israel, the "Time with Dad" program continues to expand its reach. The initiative not only addresses the immediate needs of returning fathers but also seeks to create lasting connections within families, reinforcing the importance of everyday moments in defining fatherhood.

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• “After the service, I forgot what it means to make a sandwich and play with my child,” — Yoel Goldberg, Father and IDF Reservist

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• “In the field, you learn to function and to be strong. But at home, there's a gap. You come back after months - sometimes years of separation, and you’re not the same father. You forget the small things - making a sandwich, taking your kids to school, playing with them. Those everyday moments define fatherhood, and they disappear during long service,” — Yoel Goldberg, Father and IDF Reservist

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• “She added, "The program creates a structured, nonjudgmental space where fathers and young children can reconnect through guided play and interaction.” — Helli Naftalovich, Director of Israel Operations, Early Starters International

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