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Celebrating Resilience: Bat Mitzvahs for Fatherless Girls in Israel
2/18/2026, 11:38:46 PM
A Unique Celebration of Life and Loss
On a Monday morning in Jerusalem’s Givat Shaul neighborhood, a poignant bat mitzvah celebration unfolded for numerous 12-year-old girls, all of whom share a common experience of loss: they have lost their fathers. Organized by Colel Chabad, Israel’s oldest continuously operating charity, this annual event coincides with the yahrzeit of Rebbetzin Chaya Mushka Schneerson, the wife of the Lubavitcher Rebbe. The gathering, held at the Gutnick Halls of Colel Chabad, aims to provide not just a celebration of a personal milestone but also a supportive community for these girls and their mothers.
The Role of Colel Chabad
Colel Chabad has been addressing the needs of orphaned children for nearly 30 years, recognizing that many were falling through the gaps in the educational system. The organization has developed a long-term support network that includes private tutoring, extracurricular activities, and mentoring, all aimed at helping these children complete their education and transition into adulthood. Rebbi Zalman Duchman, an event organizer, emphasized that the goal is to help these children not just survive but thrive, stating, “Once they finish and move forward, they’re already on the right path.”
A Day of Joy Amidst Grief
The bat mitzvah event featured a warm reception, professional portraits, and a culinary workshop where the girls participated in traditional Jewish practices. The day was filled with music, dancing, and a shared meal, creating an atmosphere of joy and community. For many of the mothers, the event provided a rare opportunity to connect with others who understand their grief without the need for explanations. One widow expressed the feeling of being left behind as the rest of the country seemed to move on, highlighting the ongoing emotional toll of loss amidst the backdrop of conflict.
Long-Term Support and Community Building
Colel Chabad’s approach to supporting widows and their children is characterized by patience and community involvement. Rather than reaching out immediately after a loss, they wait 60 to 90 days, allowing families to process their grief. The organization relies on “ambassadors” who are widows themselves to invite others to support groups, fostering a sense of belonging and continuity. As Zalman noted, the commitment extends beyond immediate support, with promises to be there for families through significant life events.
Conclusion: Celebrating Continuity in the Face of Trauma
For a few hours in the banquet hall, the bat mitzvah girls were celebrated not for their losses but for their achievements and the community they represent. This event serves as a testament to the resilience of these families, emphasizing that even in the wake of trauma, moments of joy and connection can still be cherished and celebrated.
