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The Psychological Landscape of Israel and Iran: A Reflection on Trauma and Identity
4/1/2026, 2:19:56 AM
The Core Event: October 7 and Its Aftermath
The events of October 7, 2023, marked a significant turning point for Israel, particularly highlighted by the devastation in Kibbutz Be’eri. This incident is viewed as a catastrophic shattering of Israel's constructed identity, which had been characterized by a façade of invulnerability and technological prowess. The psychological implications of this rupture resonate deeply within the national psyche, prompting a reevaluation of identity and the potential for healing.
Historical Context: The Drama of the Gifted Child
Polish Swiss psychologist Alice Miller's concept of “the Drama of the Gifted Child” serves as a lens through which to understand the dynamics of both Israeli and Iranian identities. Miller posited that individuals often construct a "false self" to meet external expectations, leading to emotional suffocation. In Israel's case, this false self emerged from the desire to be accepted by the Western world and the haunting memories of the Jewish Diaspora. This psychological armor has historically masked deep-seated anxieties and vulnerabilities.
The Iranian Reflection: Trauma and Grandiosity
Across the border, Iran's identity is similarly shaped by historical trauma, particularly through the Shi’ite narrative of al-Mustadh‘afin, or the society of the oppressed. The legacy of the Battle of Karbala in 680 AD has been appropriated by the Iranian regime to fuel a narrative of perpetual victimhood and aggression. The regime's nuclear ambitions and regional expansion are seen as compensatory mechanisms for a perceived historical inferiority, perpetuating a cycle of conflict rather than healing.
The Path to Healing: Mourning and Sovereignty
In light of the October 7 events, there is a call for Israel to shift from reactive anxiety to mature mourning. This process involves acknowledging loss—not as a pretext for further conflict, but as a catalyst for resolution. The notion of mourning is framed as an act of sovereignty, allowing for a transformation from a mindset of revenge to one of understanding and dialogue. Recognizing shared pain between adversaries is essential for genuine peace.
Criticism of Victimhood Narratives
There is a caution against adopting a narrative of eternal victimhood, akin to the Shi’ite ta’ziyeh rituals that institutionalize grief. Critics argue that if Israel allows the events of October 7 to define its national existence, it risks becoming trapped in a cycle of self-destruction. The emphasis should be on building a future that acknowledges historical scars without being defined by them.
Moving Forward: A Dialogue of Scars
The path to peace is proposed through a "dialogue of scars," which requires leaders to abandon grandiose myths of total victory and instead recognize the shared pain of both Israelis and their adversaries. This approach emphasizes the importance of human connection and understanding, fostering a narrative that prioritizes healing over conflict.
Conclusion: Embracing Vulnerability
Ultimately, the transition from a state of conflict to one of peace necessitates a return to vulnerability. Recognizing the wounded child within both societies can lead to a deeper understanding of shared fears and wounds. This acknowledgment is framed not as a weakness, but as a source of moral strength and true sovereignty. The journey towards redemption lies in allowing emotional expression without resorting to violence, enabling both nations to choose life over destruction.
