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Former Yankees Pitcher Carl Pavano Faces Abuse Allegations in Ongoing Divorce
5/15/2026, 3:25:01 AM
Core Event: Allegations of Abuse Amid Divorce Proceedings
Former New York Yankees pitcher Carl Pavano, 50, is accused by his ex-wife of multiple abusive acts, including urinating in her shampoo bottles, intentionally soiling the bed she uses during parenting time, and removing all clean linens from their Fairfield, Connecticut home. The accusations appear in a May 1 application for relief from physical abuse and in subsequent court filings.
Background & Context: Marriage, Prenup, and Custody
Carl and Alissa (also reported as Alyssa) Pavano met in 2005, married in December 2011, and have three children born between 2008 and 2012. A prenup drafted by Carl’s attorney was upheld by a Connecticut judge, obligating him to provide a $300,000 alimony payment, purchase a home up to $1 million for Alissa, $50,000 in jewelry, and a new car. The couple shares alternating-week custody of the children in the same Fairfield residence.
Key Figures
- Carl Pavano – Former MLB pitcher, defendant in the divorce and abuse filings.
- Alissa Pavano – Lifestyle influencer, plaintiff alleging abuse and seeking to invalidate the prenup.
- Connecticut Court of Appeals – Reviewing the prenup challenge and hearing restraining-order requests.
- CT Insider & New Haven Register – Sources of the court documents cited.
Timeline of Legal Proceedings
- 2024 – Divorce papers served; police called to the home nine times thereafter.
- May 1, 2025 – Alissa files application for relief from physical abuse.
- May 15, 2025 – Deadline for Carl’s legal team to submit a brief; hearing scheduled.
- November 2025 – Restraining-order hearing postponed at Alissa’s request.
Data & Statistics
- Three children involved in shared custody.
- Nine police calls to the residence since 2024.
- $300,000 one-time alimony awarded.
- $1 million house purchase requirement for Alissa.
Official Statements & Responses
A Connecticut judge affirmed the prenup’s validity and ordered Carl to fulfill the financial obligations outlined above. Alissa’s attorneys have asked the court to remove Carl from the home, grant her exclusive possession during parenting time, and bar Carl from direct communication, limiting contact to lawyers or a court-appointed parenting coordinator. Carl’s counsel has until May 15 to file a response.
Criticism & Opposition
Alissa’s filings allege a pattern of coercive control: sending a group text with a photo of firearms on a kitchen table captioned “hold the fort,” installing a keyless lock on a bedroom she was meant to occupy, hiding cameras throughout the house, and stealing a Rolex before returning it. She also claims Carl’s female partners occupied the bed she used, prompting him to soil it and remove clean linens.
Conflicting Reports & Gaps
- Name spelling: Sources alternate between “Alissa” and “Alyssa.”
- Police-call verification: Only CT Insider reports nine calls; no independent confirmation is provided.
- Restraining-order hearing details: The exact date of the postponed hearing is noted as November, but the prior scheduled date is not specified.
Verbatim Quotes
- “hold the fort.” — Alissa Pavano, group-text caption.
- “suffered significant abuse and coercive control by Carl” — Alissa Pavano, affidavit.
- “safe in the marital residence,” — Alissa Pavano, relief application.
- “In the filing, reviewed by PEOPLE, she claimed that she was “coerced” to sign the prenup under threats that he would leave her.” — Alissa Pavano’s lawyers, filing brief.
- “intentionally soiled the bed in which Plaintiff sleeps during her parenting time by having his female sex partners occupy the bed.” — Allegation in court filing.
What’s Next
The court will hear arguments on May 15, after which a decision on the restraining order and exclusive possession request is expected. The postponed restraining-order hearing set for November will address whether Carl may re-enter the home. Both parties remain engaged in a legal battle over the prenup’s enforceability and the alleged abusive conduct.
