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Divorce Battle Between Former Yankees Pitcher Carl Pavano and Ex-Wife Alissa Pavano Escalates Over Restraining Order and Prenup Appeal
5/16/2026, 10:40:55 PM
Court-Ordered Restraining Order and Immediate Relief
A Connecticut Superior Court judge granted Alissa Pavano a restraining order on May 15, 2026, requiring Carl Pavano to surrender any firearms and prohibiting him from stalking, harassing, threatening, or assaulting her. The order does not bar him from the shared 10,000-sq-ft Fairfield residence where the couple’s three children live. Judge Steven Dembo based the decision on Alissa’s testimony that Pavano’s conduct has created a constant state of fear.
Background: Prenuptial Agreement and Prior Rulings
The dispute centers on a Florida-signed prenuptial agreement that Alissa Pavano seeks to void in Connecticut. State Superior Court Judge Thomas O’Neill previously upheld the agreement but ordered a $300,000 lump-sum payment, a home valued up to $1 million, $50,000 in jewelry, and a new vehicle for Alissa. She alleges the contract was signed under duress after Pavano threatened to end the relationship unless she complied.
Key Figures & Legal Representatives
- Carl Pavano – former New York Yankees pitcher, represented by attorney Michael T. Meehan.
- Alissa Pavano – plaintiff, represented by attorney Gary Cohen.
- Judge Steven Dembo – presiding over the restraining-order hearing.
- Judge Thomas O’Neill – earlier judge on the prenup validity.
Timeline of Major Developments
- 2011 – Carl and Alissa marry.
- 2024 – Divorce papers served; Pavano posts a group-chat photo of firearms captioned “hold the fort.” Police called nine times to the family home thereafter.
- 2025 – State Superior Court rules prenup valid, issues financial package.
- May 15, 2026 – Restraining order granted; appellate deadline set for Pavano’s response to the prenup-void filing.
Data & Statistics
- Residence: 10,000 sq ft home in Fairfield, Connecticut.
- Children: three.
- Financial orders: $300,000 lump sum, up to $1 million home, $50,000 jewelry, new car.
- Police interventions: nine calls since 2024.
Why It Matters
The case tests the enforceability of interstate prenuptial agreements when one party alleges systemic intimidation and domestic harassment. A Connecticut appellate ruling could set precedent for how courts balance contractual autonomy against claims of psychological coercion and safety concerns in high-net-worth divorces.
Official Statements & Responses
Alissa Pavano testified that Pavano’s behavior—including unannounced visits, playing his song “Bartender” at night, and alleged sabotage of her sleeping environment—has left her “on eggshells.” Carl Pavano declined to testify; his attorney argued that Pavano, as homeowner, is entitled to reside in the house. Gary Cohen noted the judge’s order is “vague” and suggested the parties might later negotiate terms.
Criticism & Opposition
Alissa’s affidavit accuses Pavano of “intentionally soiling the bed in which plaintiff sleeps during her parenting time by having his female sex partners occupy the bed” and of removing clean linens to render the home uninhabitable during her scheduled time. She also alleges Pavano sent a firearms photo to intimidate her after being served divorce papers.
Conflicting Reports & Gaps
- Pavono’s side is absent from the record; he did not testify.
- The restraining order does not prohibit him from the shared home, contrary to Alissa’s request.
- The prenup’s validity remains contested, with no final appellate decision yet.
Verbatim Quotes
- “He has terrorized me the entire two years we have had to live under the same room during this divorce, completely,” — Alissa Pavano, ex-wife
- “hold the fort.” — Carl Pavano (group-chat caption)
- “intentionally soiled the bed in which plaintiff sleeps during her parenting time by having his female sex partners occupy the bed” — Alissa Pavano, affidavit
- “on eggshells” — Alissa Pavano (describing her emotional state)
What’s Next
Carl Pavano must file a response to the appellate brief by the Friday deadline. A hearing on the restraining order and custody arrangements is scheduled, and the Connecticut Court of Appeals will later decide whether to void the Florida prenup, potentially shaping future interstate marital-contract disputes.
