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Therapy’s Role in the Growing Trend of Parent-Child Estrangement
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Core Findings on Estrangement
A recent YouGov poll of 4,395 U.S. adults found that nearly four in ten Americans are estranged from at least one close family member. The breakdown shows 24 % estranged from a sibling, 16 % from a parent and 10 % from a child. Commentators note that the phenomenon, sometimes called “cutoff culture,” has prompted debate over whether mental-health therapy is contributing to the rise in family fractures.
Survey Data
Two large-scale surveys of more than 5,200 U.S. parents who are estranged from adult children reported that 1,014 parents said their child began therapy within the year before the estrangement, 515 said the child indicated therapy influenced the decision to cut off contact, and 1,254 reported that the child had received a mental-health diagnosis. The surveys were not peer-reviewed and relied on parents’ recollections, limiting definitive conclusions about causality.
Expert Views on Therapy’s Role
Richard Blake, Ph.D., a Texas-based psychology researcher who helped design the surveys, describes the trend as an “overcorrection” and cautions that only a “small subset” of therapists may view cutting off family members as an appropriate response. He emphasizes that “differences in values” and political or religious disagreements often underlie estrangements, and that “emotional abuse” is sometimes applied broadly in therapy contexts.
She supports parents apologizing when appropriate but stresses that therapists should consider the broader circumstances.
Lucy Blake, Ph.D., a developmental psychologist in the U.K., counters that therapy can be “very helpful” when clinicians understand the complexity of estrangement and the underlying factors such as abuse or mental-health challenges.
Mediation and Paths Forward
Both Richard Blake and Wellington suggest that neutral third-party mediation—whether through a therapist or a professional mediator—can be productive when both parties are willing to engage. When contact has already been severed, joint therapy may no longer be feasible, and alternative dispute-resolution methods are recommended.
Verbatim Quotes
- “Then you get into the sort of very murky area of emotional abuse, and this is where therapy culture comes in," Blake added.” — Richard Blake, the psychologist
- “It makes you feel good, but there are consequences afterwards — very serious consequences,” — Richard Blake, the psychologist
- “Communication with a mediator, whether it’s a therapist or a professional mediator, can be really productive," said Richard Blake.” — Richard Blake. Once